Death Of A Sexist

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Has any of you with sons there, walked into baby stores and picked toys bright pink and purple? How about pink and purple clothing? No? Well, wait till you want to prove the paradigm wrong. I have been doing so. A few years ago, I used to buy a gorgeous Barbie and thousands of her accessories for my little girl! Also bought Barbie her boyfriend, castles and what not! I thoroughly enjoyed watching my girl spend hours dressing and undressing Barbie and cooking plastic meals for a party. Now, imagine my son doing the same!

Wondering he will soon come back to his senses. He must only be doing his job. Pile up toy cars and trucks, fire a few bullets from his toy gun and box me right and left. Well, that's what he is expected to do, right?  



Now, If i called it sexism, would you agree with me or not?



On the other hand, in our self-absorbed sane society, we have gender-specific roles. A woman has to cook whatever happens, and the man is the head of the family. We are assigned rules by our normal society and we ought to behave in that sane fashion. Men definitely can't use lip balms, except for the fair and lovely unless it is certified by television soap or commercials. Women can make decisions, but,  with the permission of the man. Irony died! 

Don't blame us.  It is the norms of our society substantiated by ourselves each day each moment. This is rule 1 from Stone Age times, except that, then the women were not found in pink bikinis and the men in blue "langoti".

There is a sexism in our inner self. Yes. We do. That’s the way we have been brought up. These are essentially men's and women's rules in our society. That's our normal.  We can brag about our girls riding a bike, or traveling alone for work, but we fuss about our little boys dressed in frocks. No, they are to be brought up like "real men". They can't cry! They can't play in the kitchen. No. 

I have begun to come to terms with changing times. We women can head companies and our men have won master chef awards, worldwide. Men, can change diapers, rock a baby to sleep, and cook meals enthusiastically while women can run projects and drive a car in the middle of the night. Male and female qualities have performed very well and are now in the reversal way. Activists are proposing a  new phenomenal era. Our Bollywood "ke sitare" are empowering women through videos. So much so that one of the stars goes to the extent of making this popular video. My Choice.

A woman has her choice! Be it sane or not!

But a lot many viral stuff is loaded on the internet every morning. Funny jokes on men, on women. The bad drivers on the road are the women or the bad multitasking men. Stereotyping the colour code. The sexism in us is the living devil for the functioning of a normal society. But on the contrary, the changing society has presented a few wonders. I often see a woman running champion who posts pictures of her biceps on Facebook and receives 1000 plus likes. I see men doing the babysitting while the women run late from the office. For the grannies and aunties, this must seem like an insane idea. What a shame, she can't be home before the man and make a cup of tea for him. What a pity, Aunty, times are changing. And those of us who dare to think and behave differently are worshiped as aliens. It takes decades for the aunties to realize they are not wrong but we are right too.  However, aunty can't stop saying "Yeno appa egina makklu". (The children these days...you know...!). Single women are still looked upon with raised eyebrows. Call it the curiosity floods or the society norms, whether one is successful in life or not. she has to be tagged a Mrs to attain the nirvana of our sane society norms. Is it?

When a child is born in the hospital, the nurse plunges into tying a pink ribbon for a girl and a blue for a boy. This is merely a colour code! Not a program to be run for your entire life. 

There are no rights and wrongs. There is evolution. There is knowledge and education. And until we come to terms that the gender-specific evolution is headlong, we ought not to declare the death of sexism in us.